I was running late again for work and had my husband dropped me off. My boss is a nice guy but he is a stickler for people being on time. My heart stopped when we pulled up and he was standing at the door. His handsome black face usually had a smile on it but I could see him frowning and I knew I was going to get a lecture about being late. Blowing hubby a kiss, I scampered out of the car and dashed into the office. I almost made it to my desk when my boss asked me to come into his office. Instead of a lecture, he took out brochure for a resort hotel and asked me if I would like to spend a few days with him on the beach. At first I laughed, I assumed he was joking but he was very serious.
“But I am married,” I told him.
“I know,” he replied, “But you know I find you very sexy and I know you have dated black men in the past. Thought I would test out that ‘Once you go black, you never go back’ theory.”
“Well, that is just BS,” I said, “And besides, what did you think my husband would say?”
“This is just another business trip for me,” he said grinning, “And as far as he would know, it would be for you too. Tell him that there is a big bonus in it for you too.”
I just got back and there certainly was.
My own life is more than a bit confusing and I confess that at times I wish I had never gotten involved with another man, especially a black man. He is really very good to me and a wonderful lover but he is very much the kind that wants “his woman” to be there for him when he has had a bad day, needs some companionship, or wants to go party.
What if Marylin Monroe had married Jackie Robinson instead?
Hi Sandy,
I’ve read that the alpha patterns of women in relationships will change to more closely match those of the man their more emotionally involved with and the more long term the relationship the closer her patterns matches his. Now my theory. The reason for the intensity of sexual intercourse between black men and white women is that they are more closely mentally suited for each other. Black men and white women make much more productive teams when placed together and if left together for long periods of time the synergy becomes almost palpable to the people around them. There are fewer personality conflicts with work groups comprised of black men and white women and this isn’t because they’re all trying to get into each others pants.
Sexually, I feel freer to give parts of myself to my lover that I usually hold in reserve. I think white women are used to giving ‘false feedback’ during sex and when they’re with their black boyfriends, their feed back is anything but false. I feel it when I’m with my white lovers and we establish a kind delicious hot sensual feedback loop that eventually leads to intense overload both physically and mentally. Hence, supercharged sex! Whaddya think?
Another study in contrast.
In My Dreams-
We climb and climb and at the top we fly
Let the world go on below us, we are lost in time
And I dont know really what it means
All I know is that you love me, in my dreams
