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Hot Tub Party at Digs!

Every time I get in a hot tub I wonder about two things– who had sex in this tub and will I have sex in the tub.

Not my best, but fun.

… about commitment.

Abortion would be an easy choice for a woman who was not serious about her man. If she loves him, she wants to have his child to show her commitment to him. Unfortunately, I also think that black men are not as committed to the women who bear their children. There is a lot of truth to that “sowing their black seed” talked about on Dark Cavern.

A bit of fantasy, a bit of truth. Standing up sex is best when is it hot and quick.

Pinned against the wall, his hand slid down my waist to my bare thighs, lifting my dress, his hand teased, feeling my heat and moistness. I gasped as he slip my panties down past my knees, I pressed hard against him feeling his swollen cock.

… about being accepted.

The one thing that is not talked about much is how having his child will gain you acceptance in one family and rejection in another. In my experience, white women who have black children are more easily accepted by the black man’s family. There is an effort to make sure that cultural ideas and heritage are passed to the child and therefore the mother must be brought into the family fold to be able to do that. I think that is probably true of of any interracial relationship but more so with blacks families.

… about trying to blend.

I never knew that much about black culture or identity until after “going black” and while I still am not into rap, I dig hip-hop. Can I get out there and dance like the kids on BET?… No, but hey, I am a white middle class woman who has had 3 kids so cut me a break… Oh, with one exception, I can grind my man so he has to walk off that dance floor with his hands in his pocket… not that he really cares.

I am not sure that I am totally “socially comfortable” but I have learned to adapt and can fit in most of the time. How well you are accepted is what determines how comfortable you are. When we are with his friends and their girlfriends or wives, it is great… with his family, that can be another story.